You just spent the entire post describing my husband. It's extremely rare that I leave Dillan with him but when I have the house has been destroyed when I get home. Due to the fact that I stay home I don't mind doing the housework because I feel like that's my job but it's not my job to pick up everything he touches when he's here. I have given up trying to clean on the weekends when he's here. I just wait 'til he leaves and then do it all because it's impossible when he's here. When I have one room finished 3 more are torn apart.